I do not believe that suffering is the necessary and inevitable condition of human beings here on earth. I do not believe that the essence of life is misery.
Resignation to uncontested suffering is merely passivity, a failure to take responsibility for one's own existence.
To take responsibility for our existence, we need to relinquish the belief that frustration and defeat are our natural and inevitable fate. That belief which is sometimes upheld as an expression of higher sophistication or wisdom, is in fact a default on the very challenge of being alive, of being conscious, of being human.
~ Nathaniel Branden, The Psychology of Romantic Love