Simple Ways To Reduce Performance Stress
It's not hard to get on the right road and keep yourself there. Here are some simple things you can do right away:
- Stop saying "Yes" to performance situations you are not ready for, or do not feel you are up to doing for any reason. Not allowing others coerce you into doing performance that are potentially damaging to your self-esteem are one of the first steps in loving yourself.
- Go to your instrument and play what you want to play! Stop playing what others want and start playing what you want. You are not obligated to anyone unless you have created a false expectation in others that you will play what they want. Make today the day that saying "no" to them is saying "yes" to yourself.
- Its not about competition. The great artist professor Donald Walker always said, "In art, there is no score." A true winner does not set out to beat another person; a winner wins at being him or herself. Just because the world is set up to get all "A's," isn't it more important to have the knowledge than the grades?
- Believe it is possible. You are good and you have something to offer the world that no one else has to offer. If you know and admit your weaknesses, your strengths will shine.
- Stop trying to prove yourself and set others straight. Remember that one of the quickest things to take you off of the path of your life will be to please someone else with beating someone else following a close "second."
- It is impossible to learn without error; you learn from the mistake. The bad news is that you cannot learn anything without making mistakes, and you will have days when everything appears to go to "hell in a handbasket," as the old saying goes. Expecting to learn pieces or moves with little or nor error is unreasonable and pretentious. It will only take you down the wrong road.